Being a
stay at home mother isn't as easy as everyone thinks. Most other mothers, and even some men think
that being a mother means you do nothing all day long. When in reality that isn't true, do stay at
home mothers really just stay at home? Mothers do a lot, rather you work
outside of your home or not. Being at
home with your children, doesn't make a mother "lazy", that all she
does is sit on the couch all day long.
For me
personally, I have to do something to pay the bills, but also at the same time
I have to take care of my children. So I
baby sit. For me it is what is best for
my family. My children need someone to
take them to school, to pick them up, to do homework, and to take care of
them. I don't have family that helps me
out, and day care is too expensive.
Before I had my youngest son, I looked into getting a job. I did my research on day cares and prices. If I had been able to get a full time job that
paid me $9.00 an hour, which was very unlikely since I have no work experience,
then for full time day care for one child, and after school care for 4 would
cost me all of my pay check plus $200 dollars out of my pocket. That isn't including the company taking out
insurance or taxes. And now I have
another child to factor in. So with
those costs, it is in the best interest of my children for me to baby sit and
make money from home. That way
more money is coming into the house.
It may not be picture perfect, but my kids do not go without. I make sacrifices every single day for them. I do not buy myself things, when I do it is a
rare opportunity; like for make up only. My children are more important and for them to
have a good life with the things that they need and want. Plus they can't walk
to school or ride the bus, so someone has to be there for them; and that person
is me. Of course it would make things easier on me
and even less stressful if there was more money, or someone else that helped
out, but we are healthy and happy. And
honestly it is a huge accomplishment to not being living with someone else, or
having someone rent part of my house just to make ends meet. It is a big deal to me that I take care of my
children and I know I am raising them the way I want them raised. Most of the time, I work more hours in a week
than people who work outside of their house.
When I was 30-36 weeks pregnant with my last child, I was babysitting
80-85 hours a week; that's like two full time jobs- that's probably why I had
that baby at 36 weeks. Now I put in 30-50 hours a week and will all summer
long, and have been since my youngest was 2 months old.
Of
course, I have plans and goals, and even dreams. But those dreams are on hold till my children
are a little older. It would be a lot
easier to have a job outside of the home when all of my kids are in school. I could work while they are at school, so
that is one plan I have. I have others too, but my main plan right now is take
care of my responsibilities.
Maybe
my way of life isn't for everyone, I understand that and respect that. But to be fair others shouldn't judge each
other. Some people only have one kid,
some have a houseful, some people have brown hair and some have blonde; but
does any of that really matter or even any of your business?
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